Throughout Princess Diana‘s 15-year marriage to Prince Charles there were dozens of instances where their clashing personalities were displayed for all to see.
But perhaps the most high-profile example was when the princess danced with ballet star Wayne Sleep as a surprise present for her husband’s 37th birthday in 1985.
They performed a three-minute dance to Billy Joel‘s 80s hit Uptown Girl to uproarious applause and eight curtain calls from the 2,500 VIP-only audience.
Despite the crowd’s enthusiastic reaction, Charles did not stand when Diana, at 25 years old, left the stage and approached him, eager for his approval. He simply said, “Well done, darling,” and then turned to speak to someone else.
No video footage of this now-famous moment exists, and only a few photos were taken by the in-house photographer, who vowed never to release them. However, he later sold them in 1995 for around $250,000.
The performance became so iconic that it was recreated in The Crown, where Charles was portrayed as furious at Diana’s “grotesque, mortifying display.”
MailOnline takes a look back at one of Diana’s most memorable moments, highlighting how it revealed the stark differences between her and Charles.
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Princess Diana and Wayne Sleep performed a three-minute dance to Billy Joel’s 80s hit Uptown Girl to uproarious applause from the audience in 1985
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The dance number was perhaps the most high-profile example of Diana and Charles’s different personalities. Pictured: The during their Australia tour in 1985
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No video footage exists of the now stuff-of-legend moment, and only a few pictures were taken by the in-house photographer who swore to never release them, although he did eventually sell them in 1995 for around $250,000
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The duo’s iconic 1985 dance was recreated in Season four of The Crown (above) with Jay Webb playing the flamboyant star accompanying the Princess, portrayed by Emma Corrin
It was Diana’s decision to do the secret performance with Sleep at the annual VIP show for Friends of Covent Garden at London‘s Royal Opera House in December 1985.
Sleep at the time was a well-known British dancer who performed for some years with the Royal Ballet, but when he was approached by Diana he expressed scepticism that they could perform together due to his small 5ft 2in frame.
But they quickly became friends with Sleep saying they bonded over ‘schoolboy humour’ after Diana, who became a lifelong friend, called him a ‘naughty boy’ after he confessed to having a ‘very late night’ during their first early morning meeting.
Diana had studied classical ballet as a child but grew too tall at 5ft 10in to dance at the highest level but she still loved dancing throughout her life and was a supporter of the English National Ballet.
Years after the famous performance, Sleep wrote in The Guardian: ‘She loved the freedom dancing gave her.’
The duo practised in various locations such as Sleep’s personal studio in Kensington or in the drawing room of Kensington Palace to keep the Press in the dark about her movements.
The only people who were in on the secret plan were a detective and one of Diana’s ladies-in-waiting Anne Beckwith-Smith – although neither knew what the actual dance was.
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Diana and Wayne Sleep at the ‘Bits and Pieces’ show at the Royalty Theatre in London in 1989
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Sleep said when the princess walked on stage: ‘Everyone’s mouths gaped open. There was an intake of breath like they couldn’t believe it’
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One the performance itself Sleep said ‘it wasn’t a serious dance by any means’ but it ‘brought the house down with humor because the audience didn’t know what was coming next’
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During the dance they did double pirouettes and a lift, and there was also a combination of jazz hip rolls
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Although there was just the two of them, they ran the diagonals and really covered the whole stage
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Wayne Sleep after dancing with Princess Diana at the Royal Opera House in 1985
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Prince Charles and Princess Diana on their last official trip together – a visit to South Korea in 1992
When it came time to perform, Sleep raised his hand on stage to give the signal and Diana slipped out of the royal box to change and join him.
As soon as the princess stepped out on the stage, the whole audience was in shock, and it took a moment for them to realise who it really was.
Sleep told Vulture in 2020: ‘Everyone’s mouths gaped open. There was an intake of breath like they couldn’t believe it.’
One the performance itself he said, ‘it wasn’t a serious dance by any means’ but it ‘brought the house down with humor because the audience didn’t know what was coming next’.
He said they did double pirouettes and a lift, and there was also a combination of jazz hip rolls.
It was very dynamic but ‘nothing too difficult’ with steps, lounges and transfers of weight. Sleep also said they had a few innuendos in the performance.
Although there was just the two of them, they ran the diagonals and really covered the whole stage.
Sleep later said ‘she couldn’t have danced it better’ and that he was the nervous one, not Diana, out of fear he would drop the future Queen of England.
What’s more, the dancer claims he even gave Diana a gentle push to bow to her husband – who was seated in the Royal Box.
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Diana speaking to Wayne Sleep in November 1991. They stayed friends until Diana died in 1997
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Wayne Sleep, pictured in 2021, later said his dance with Diana is what most people will remember him by
Diana said to Sleep: ‘No, I’m not bowing to him, he’s my hubby. You won’t get your OBE with those comments!’
She enjoyed the dance so much she wanted to perform an encore, but Sleep refused – saying his motto was to ‘leave them wanting more’.
A few days after the performance, he received a note from Diana that stated, ‘Now I understand the buzz you get from performing.’
Despite the fact that the public and press seemed to like Diana’s performance, Charles was not pleased.
Despite his wife’s plan, he publicly expressed his ‘totally astounded’ reaction to the spectacle.
According to Andrew Morton’s book, Her True Story – In Her Own Words, he considered Diana’s appearance to be ‘undignified’ and ‘too thin and too flashy’.
He wrote: “No matter how hard she tried or what she did, every time she struggled to express herself, he crushed her spirit.” It wore her down.
Anne Allan, Diana’s private dance coach, writes in her new memoir: ‘After numerous curtain calls, a delighted Diana left the stage and exclaimed, “Beats the wedding!”
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A few days after the performance, Sleep got a letter from Diana which read: ‘Now I understand the buzz you get from performing’
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Charles had watched the performance completely oblivious to his wife’s plan
‘She made her way to Charles, and as she stood before him, I could sense she desperately wanted his approval.
‘He said, “Well done, darling”, and turned to talk to someone else.’
Meanwhile royal expert Richard Kay claimed the ‘Uptown Girl’ routine was a ‘present that backfired’ on Diana.
He said: ‘She did it as a tribute to Charles. Charles wasn’t terribly impressed.
‘He thought she was showing off. In fact, it was incredibly courageous of her to go on stage at the home of English ballet at Covent Garden and to do a routine with the great Wayne Sleep.’
According to royal biographer Tina Brown, Charles’s reaction was interpreted, as ‘frigid disapproval of Diana’s lapse in royal etiquette’.
The iconic dance was also documented in the fourth season of The Crown in 2020, where Jay Webb (playing Sleep) and Emma Corrin (playing Diana) re-created the moment.
During the scene, Charles appears sullen and deeply focused on the music. But as soon as Diana makes her surprise appearance on stage, Charles tenses.
Afterwards, he becomes cold, asking his wife ‘What were you thinking?’ and calling the surprise a ‘grotesque, mortifying display’.
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Princess Diana and Prince Charles at on the British Royal Tour of Australia in 1983
Reflecting on the night of the performance itself, Wayne said it was drastically different to how it was portrayed in the TV show.
He said The Crown made it ‘so shoulder-y’ when in ‘reality it was a little more elegant’.
But despite the fallout from the performance, Anne Allan said in the controversial documentary Diana: In Her Own Words how dancing helped Diana cope with the stress of her turbulent marriage to Charles.
She said: ‘When I first met her you could see that there was a huge shyness. But over time as we went through our dance class realised just how much dance meant to her.
‘She had dance in her soul. I realised the pure enjoyment that it gave her. She loved the freeness of being able to move and dance. She loved it. I could see it helped to alleviate her emotional life. That was hard for her at that time.’
Although it has been almost 39 years since the Uptown Girl dance, the moment has lived on in the minds of the British public as an iconic Diana moment.
As Charles, now King, looks back on all the birthday presents he received in his 76 years, he will no doubt remember the dance, and be glad there are a lot fewer surprises these days.